Dumb Distractions

The amount of time I’ve spent trying to figure out how to change the date that is showing up on the first blog post is annoying and frustrating. When I really think about it though, it’s probably been a total of 20 minutes. 

But those 20 minutes have been spent: when I first posted it, when I went to make the second post, and after I made the second post. 

The task of figuring it out is like a hangnail that I know is going to go away, but until it does, it’s going to bother me each time I make a post. 

I think that’s the part that scares me the most. My ability to live with nagging annoyances and avoid them until the pain dissipates. 

But the pain never really goes away, until whatever needs to be resolved gets resolved. 

That’s the other scary thing. I can sometimes create results that are only patches, not getting to the root of the problem and resolving it. 

The therapist I chatted with a couple years back when I was attempting to get an ADHD diagnosis told me that I’m very self-aware. And as I’m reading Dr. Hallowell’s “Delivered from Distraction” he states that one of the traits of people with ADHD is that they can’t truly see themselves.

I think it was through my sobriety struggles that I started to become truly self-aware. All I had was time to reflect. And to process. No distractions from dissecting each experience. 

Was it ruminating or was it reviewing? 

Either way, I became masterful at self-awareness. Which isn’t necessarily a good thing because all my short comings became more apparent. But along with that I was able to determine what it is that I’m good at. I think that only came after taking the course Playing Big by Tara Mohr. She was the first teacher who I learned about the inner critic from. I was able to pinpoint the negative thoughts that were on a loop causing pain. Once I realized whose voice it was, spoiler alert: it’s never your voice, I was able to recognize moving forward that their words/thoughts couldn’t hurt me. That they were dealing with their own traumas and did truly do the best they could. 

Marcia’s Mullett?

As I walked the dogs earlier today I was caught by how beautiful it was outside. Slightly chilly, but sunny. Perfection.

About halfway through I thought about how I wanted to write more. I’m not sure why I haven’t since the last post.

But then earlier today I reminded myself that part of my “punishment” to myself for not “being successful” is avoiding things I love that reward me. In addition to writing it’s walking the dogs and listening to music. Those are times when I feel … I was trying to think of the word but that is actually the word… “feel”. Writing, listening to music, and walking the dogs when the neighborhood is empty and the conditions are beautiful.  

I asked myself again, despite saying in the first entry I wasn’t going to, how am I going to make this valuable for the reader. I don’t really want to dilly dally and post for the sake of posting. 

I could share key points in things I consume like the podcast I listened to that was extremely moving and enlightening. 

But, I listen to a variety of things. And not all of the information shared would be applicable to everyone. 

Both personal and professional. 

What if the reader doesn’t have ADHD? Or isn’t a business owner. Or gives no f’s about human behavior, psychology, or effective ways to market or create systems in a business.

Then I realized that was the answer. 

Personal and professional. 

Marcia’s Mullett… business in the front, party in the back. 

That’s what I did with the Charmed Cardinals society, the Connector Conference and HerHideaways. 

Sharing business strategy and personal development. Ways to connect with yourself and grow your business. 

Both are truly interconnected so why not focus on both and (like I said in my introductory post) only write to benefit me. 

Back to Blogging!

Written November 17, 2024                                                                                                                                                                                                  

Blogging was my gateway into entrepreneurship, and a decade later, it feels right to write again. Especially given the state of affairs in the U.S. and how often I feel disheveled--I need something positive. I need to feel the freedom of expressing myself again.  

I've reached my pain threshold of staying quiet, whether out of concern about adding to the noise or uncertainty about value add that I'm providing to others. From now on, I'll view writing as something just for me. No pressure, no "right" way to do it. 

My previous stint as a blogger was with an anonymous blog called Finding Felicity. Posting was cathartic and greatly assisted with sobriety. I met so many wonderful writers and out of loneliness began networking in person (I’m 15 miles outside of DC in Northern Virginia). The women I met while networking were so inspiring that I started a business. And then another, and another.

In the past ten years I’ve had solo LLC’s (both product and services), a partnership where I was majority owner, hosted hundreds of events of varying types, had a Director role at a non-profit and a VP position for a luxury home builder. Most recently I launched a branding and marketing agency in April of this year.

I look forward to getting back to my blogging roots and hope it benefits my life as much as it did a decade ago!